Blog 11

I think that personality is what makes people either like you or dislike you. I have 5 personality traits i believe are positive. i am creative and i think this is positive because i like to be imaginative which helps when trying to put myself in others place, so i can relate to them. I am fun loving. I have fun making others laugh. i think that this is a positvie characteristic to have because everyone likes someone who can lighten up the mood. I am resposible which is deffinatily positive when dealing with work or school. if you are responsible, people will trust you and relay on you. I like the feeling that poeple can trust me because they usually return the favor. I am well organized which is a positve personality because it keeps me from become stressed to easily. I think this trait will help alot in school when i have alot of homework and not enough time to do it. Lastly i think that being kind is a positive trait. I am friendly to people that are kind to me. I listen to people if they have someting to say and i respect everyone that wants repect.
Three negative traits i have would be easily distracted, easily worried and easly agreeable. easly agreeable could be good or bad in some cases i guess. but to often if someone hurts me i usually just let it go, and sometimes i can't express the way i acually feel. Hold ing feelings inside is a problem because you can't really get that close to anyone because they never will really know your true feelings. I am a worry crazed person i think. This is negative because i constantly think what if this and what if that. in some cases this is a great trait to have because it gets you to think about the future and how what you are doing will affect you. however being worried it s a problem when i try to relax because a thousand different possibilities run through my head. lastly i am sometimes easily distracted if i am not very interesting in something. I can often pay attention if i am watching something. however if i am watching a teacher just speak and not doing anything and just talking i start to day dream. not good!
I think i am much more optimsitic than pestimistic. alot of times it doesn't pay to be pestimsitic because it just makes the situation worse. However, sometimes when one bad thing happens after the next i catch myself feeling a little bit more pestimistic because i just can't get that boost of energy to get me going again. I take the positive to the extreme and usually try to forget about the bad, hoping it doesn't bring my mood down. Two examples i can think of is when i am getting ready for an exam. I studied but know that i could of studies much harder, i try to think positve hoping that i will remember more than if i acted pestimistic. another example i can think of is when i am visiting my mom. i usually only see her for two days but instead of wining everyday saying we only have one day left untill i have to leave, we usaully make the most out of the weekend doing as much things as possible and haveing as much fun as we can handle.

My two adaptive traits are probably sociable and high energy. High energy is a pain in the butt when i have to sit still and be quite. I can change my triat to be quite and relaxed when the situation calls and high energy when im trying to make fun. this helps alot because i am more diverse and i can respect people but also make them laugh with my crazy personailty. I am very sociable when meeting new people and learning new things such as job shadowing. i know to ask alot of questions and express my thoughts. however if i am in a lecture hall at school i know to be quiet and try to get as much out of the time as i can instead of distracting myself and the people around me. this changes for the better. this benifits us because it lets us be more diverse with people. this allows us to beable to relate to people the same as us and people with different personailties.
I use reaction formation alot now to think of it. This means the ego unconsciously switches unacceptable inpulses into their opposites. i do this alot with school. if i do bad on test i am like well i don't care that much anyway when really inside, i am kicking meself for not doing better.
i use Rationalization sometimes. Rationalization is defese mechaism that offers self justifying explaations in pace of the real mor threatening uncounscious reason for ones' actions. This happens alot when i am talking with people. they say they didn't like someomthing or they did like something. so i agree with them where in reality i thought the complete oppositve. an example of this is when someone is talking about how much they admire a particular person i sya oh yeah i like them too but they really i don't. my other example of justifying rationalization is when i remember specifically that i was planing on hanging out with one friend until another friend said that she bought me a ticket to go to a concert with her that i didn't know about. i told my first friend that i really didn't want to go but that i had to because i would have to pay for it and i didn't want to pay for something i wasn't gunna use. but in reality i really wanted to go to the concert.